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I thought these tips were pretty good out of Witch Weekly and I’m not sure how many of you are still subscribing since half of the articles are getting censored out. I thought this one was pretty good though. 10 tips for the Witch or Wizard Looking For Love. This is way more optimistic than talking about the nightmares I’ve been having lately. v Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way but don't take dating too seriously either. Blah Blah. Don’t waste other people’s time. v Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself. No one wants to date a slob. It isn’t really just about what is on the inside. What is on the outside counts too. If you want to catch someone’s attention, you better hope you’re fit. v Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance. This is my favourite advice ever! I love buying new things. Seriously shopping can help brighten any mood and it can spice up your love life if you have the right shirt or the appropriate accessories. v Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date. Telling people you want to be a couple when all they want is a shag is probably not he most comfortable of conversations. Understand that you’re better off in the long run if you’re honest about where you see things going and in how much time you see it happening. If you want to have a one night stand, at least have the decency to tell the other person that you’re just looking for that. They’ll appreciate you more the morning after not that I’m talking from experience here. v Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now. OH GODRIC! I totally understand this one. I went on a double date one time with this bloke and his best friend who had been dating this girl for like 3 years. It was absolutely ridiculously! They were acting all old and married and all I really wanted to do was snog the bloke. So boring! So dreadful. If you’re doing the double date thing at least make sure you’re going to be hanging out with people who are interested in the same things that you are. v Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don't aim low but do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your chances. Ask a friend who won’t lie to rate you from 1-10. Once you have that number aim for someone who is at least 3 below that. That usually works pretty well. v Work out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors. Okay so this one isn’t that bad. It is a fun and easy way to meet new potential romantic interests. Make sure you are actually capable of doing which ever activity you chose to go. Just because that cutie from Charms class enjoys jumping off the roof of the Astronomy Tower doesn’t mean you should do it. Be true to yourself and you’ll get ahead. I personally adore sitting outside watching Quidditch practices. It gives me time to catch some sun and see the fittest boys in the school work up a sweat. There is nothing hotter! Trust me. Just be careful about dating Quidditch players. v Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. So date in phases if necessary. Breaks are okay but they get boring from personal experience. I say if you can get a date then take it. Unless you’re really interested in the person and then you have to play the whole mystery thing. See below though. v Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way. Blah Blah Blah. They might have missed the mark here. Yes, Witch Weekly is practically the bible but there is only so much conversation you can have so much conversation. I couldn’t agree more with the whole keeping your options open bit. We’re young and we all have plenty of time to do the whole ‘happy-ever-after’ marriage bit. Date a lot of people! Snog a lot of people! Snogging releases endorphins and endorphins will make you happy. That’s what all the articles have been saying for years though. I don’t think I’ve ever felt ‘sad’ about snogging anyone. v Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop. In other words, if you the Witch or Wizard of your dreams seems to be hot and cold they might just be playing hard to get. You shouldn’t get disappointed if they aren’t jumping at your first invitation to get with you. Take it slow but let them know you’re interested. If they like you, they’re sure to come around. If they don’t you might not be interested at all. Don’t become a stalker! That edges on creepy.
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